How To Make A Woman Feel Safe On A First Date

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The first date is memorable for being either lovely or horrible. To make sure you avoid the latter, take these steps to ensure your female partner feels safe. You’ll know you nailed it if she asks for that second date!

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When men are going for first dates they worry about whether their date will like their selection of clothes, what to say or what NOT to say, and if they’ll like the spot that they’ve picked for the date.

Women, on the other hand, are concerned about whether their date will find them as attractive in person but more so they are terrified for their lives.

It then becomes important that guys know what to do to make sure that the first date is comfortable and memorable (in a good way) for both of you. Here are a few things you can do so that you score that second date.

Don’t suggest picking her up

Meet instead of sharing a ride. This leaves room for her to leave in case the date isn’t going as well as she planned. Where she lives is also private information that she isn’t obligated to share with you until she trusts you enough to do so.

Public places for first dates

Public places will ease her fears because there are other people surrounding her. This should make you feel safe too!

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Don’t be too ambitious, pick a somewhat casual place (or settle for coffee) so that there aren’t any worries about how expensive the food is going to be, being under-dressed plus unfamiliar options on the menu.



No crossed arms

Body language is going to be massive throughout the first date. Crossing your arms is a sign of being closed and holding back. It’s also reflective of anger and insecurity. A woman who feels like you’re open about your flaws and history will trust you better.

Smile but just the right amount

Smiles feel warm and welcoming. Too much of it however feels suffocating and almost sinister. Do it just right and she’ll be disarmed and will notice that you want her to feel comfortable. Smile without showing teeth so that she knows there’s no judgment or annoyance, you’re just happy to be on this date with her.

Don’t get physical

Touching on the first date is a NO unless she initiates it first. This means that when you meet for the first time, go for a  firm handshake instead of a hug. Initiating them first takes away the knowledge of how she truly feels about it. She’ll remember that you made the move without checking if she felt secure.

Mirror her

Mirroring her body language can give you an idea of what she is comfortable with and what she’s not ready for. If she reaches for your hand, reach back. She scoots close to you? Scoot back. If not. DON’T.

Don’t hold back a little humour

Most women always report back that they like a guy who can make them laugh. If you’re not naturally funny then let it go or else you’ll look like you’re trying too hard. Be natural.

Making a woman feel comfortable isn’t difficult at all. Pay attention to details, such as her body language, and ask questions that can prompt interesting responses. After the date is over, make it known that you’re interested in a second date(if you really are). If she’s keen, you’ll know you’ve done well.

What other tips can you think of that make women feel safe on a first date? Mention them in the comments section below.

Going for a second date? Read about the 5 Things to do on a second date.

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