This Article is presented by: Gillian Myhill
Gillian Myhill is a dating and relationships expert, as well as the co-founder of BARE Dating.
Going back in the world of real-life dating is going to be a slightly overwhelming experience for a lot of us. Whether this is nervous anxiety or excited anxiety both can at times be overwhelming.
Some things that can help you.
The magical effect that endorphins can have on the human body is well known and documented. So on the day of the said first date – a really good workout will leave you feeling more relaxed and at ease within yourself.
Spend some time the night before looking after your physical self, do a face mask, wash your hair, have a long hot bath, I think we are all more attracted to clean and nice smelling partners.
I’ve always been a slightly anxious person, more on the side of excited and anxious, I tend to speak a lot at these times. Breathing exercises have really helped calm me down in situations where I find myself getting nervous.
For a lot of people preparing is a key point before any date, people respond well to someone who shows genuine interest in you! So it could help alleviate anxieties if you understand a little about the things that interest your date.
Some environments will create more anxiety than others, especially at this time as we are re-entering the world post-pandemic. Perhaps suggest a walk in a park rather than meeting inside if you are anxious about the health risks, or if you fear you might become overwhelmed in crowds.
Being in an environment around a lot of other people can be stressful at the best of times so for a first date id always suggest somewhere calmer where you can have the chance to talk and get to know each other better.
Finding your inner confidence is different for all people and can be a difficult thing to turn on and off. Remind yourself that you are the most important person to you! You need not rely on another person’s validation to complete you. This is the sexiest and most alluring thing you can bring on a date. A few days before the date, say daily affirmations to yourself in the mirror. ‘I am beautiful’, ‘I am worthy, I deserve this date’. This will help boost your confidence, and mood and make you feel more empowered.