How To Avoid Awkward Silences on A First Date

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Here are a couple of tips on questions to ask and further tips to avoid awkward silences on a first date. Be a dating pro today even if you’re rusty.

Let’s face it.

We all wish we could kick-ass at dates as we sweep them off their feet with our sweet tongue, unbelievably pleasant humor, and high intellectual power.

First dates can be nerve-wracking.

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They make it to the list alongside public-speaking, standing up for ourselves, job interviews, collecting body-test results, and of course snakes. Just because they don’t have an encouraging repertoire doesn’t mean that you should throw away your tools and quit.

These tips on how to avoid tummy-churning awkward silence on a first date are foolproof.  Get ready to WOW your date.

Ask them what they like.

It’s a well-known fact, people love talking about themselves. Ask your date questions such as where they grew up, what they enjoy doing, and where they were born. This will help you to know them better and it’ll be even more interesting if your responses don’t match.

Breathe and relax.

It’s easier to lose our minds when on a date. Keep in mind that this is a human that can’t see how you feel and are probably more nervous than you are.

Win the contest of keeping your cool in pressure-like conditions.

Keep the phone away

Glancing at your phone continuously gives the impression that you’re bored or in a hurry to be elsewhere.

You might also be a wiz at multi-tasking but if your date doesn’t think you’re listening, they won’t share any interesting information with you.




Talk about the place you’ve chosen

This is probably best at the beginning of the date just before you move from the surroundings to them. Talk about why you selected it or ask why they did without sounding like you hate it.

If you’ve already started with a killer topic, pick this only as a last resort to get rid of the deafening silence(if it gets to that at all)

Ask what they do for work and if they enjoy it

This will give you insight into what they do to keep busy. The second question helps you find out what sort of character they have. This is also an opportunity for you to talk about what you do. Don’t overtake the whole conversation and talk only about that for the rest of the date though. Relax.


From religion to politics. Just. Don’t. Enough said.


Whatever questions you decide to go for, just make sure that they are light-hearted, fun, and capable of getting interesting responses. What other questions would you add to this list? I’d be happy to read them in the comments section then possibly edit them into the article to help our friends.

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